A Ship in Harbor is Safe

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”

2006, The Yale Book of Quotations by Fred R. Shapiro, Section: John A. Shedd, Page 705, Yale University Press, New Haven.

This thought came to mind as my 13-year-old grandson Rowan left for Europe without his family today. He was beyond enthusiastic about a twelve-day spring break travel adventure sponsored by his school. Everything important, including my good camera, was air-tagged (except him, haha). The first leg took him by coach to Montreal, KLM to Amsterdam and Zurich—a wonderful opportunity to visit four countries over spring break.

The question of borrowing my camera came up about ten days ago. Yes, he has Opa’s old phone, but photography is another of his passions, and he loves using my camera. So I said yes. Parents were immediately concerned with the obvious – loss, theft, being left behind, or being dropped into a lake. Many things could go wrong. I was not concerned.

To Take Pictures

As Rowan put it, “We” (meaning Nana and Rowan)  bought this camera 11 years ago, to take pictures.  “Right now,” he logically suggested, “it is sitting on a shelf, not being used. Wouldn’t it be better for the camera to be taking photos?”  And as you might imagine, I couldn’t agree more.

Rowan has spent enough time with me to know what I write and discuss. Recently, I facilitated a webinar titled “We Are All on Our Way Out, so Use the Good Dishes.” And this is a good example. If something happens to the camera, it will most likely be due to an accident, not carelessness. So much better to learn to let go than to hold on to avoid loss. So, I asked him a question before he left today.

What do I want you to do if something happens to the camera? “Continue to enjoy my trip”, he said. “Don’t let the camera ruin the holiday.” A high five.

And this is so true in many circumstances. We don’t use the good dishes, the best sweater, the beautiful journal, the multi-purpose art tablet and new markers, or enjoy the best bottle of champagne- we save it for the optimal special occasion, which may never come. However, every morning we wake up can be considered a special occasion. Why not? None of us knows our expiry date. So why not make this day special in lovely small ways?

In this case,  Rowan has used my camera many times. Of course, we care for our belongings, but it is far better to wear them out and use them up while we can still do so. Don’t you think? And there is the possibility that others and I will enjoy Rowan’s photo journey – what a gift to share in the joy, passion and adventures of those wonderful young people in our lives. (all ages in fact)

” One can live at a low flame. Most people do. For some, life is an exercise in moderation, (best china saved for special occasions) but given something like death, (and it will happen to us all) what does it matter if one looks foolish now and then, or tries too hard, or cares too deeply.”  Diane Ackerman

NOTES

1:) I know the banner photo is not a ship. It is a tiny, insignificant paper sailboat. And I absolutely love it.paper boat with red sail floating on water” – thanks to  Zolotarevs Shutterstock The gratitude photo is thanks to  Donald-Giannatti-unsplash.jpg

2:) Memory making – My friend welcomes her grandchildren (early 20s) to use her beautiful lakehouse. “They love the lake house, and I enjoy their stories of enjoyment…” Life is for living.

3:)Thank you for stopping by and reading these musings. Take care, and I send all my best wishes for good health, what you need, and many moments of joy and contentment. With gratitude, Trudy

15 replies
  1. Pat Fream
    Pat Fream says:

    I’m so excited for Rowan! And so glad he has you Trudy … a precious Nana and an out of this world friend.

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Dear Pat: thank you for your generous words. I have been beyond fortunate to have this extraordinary gift to be part of the daily life of my grandchildren. I hope I will see you in the spring when I come to Calgary. Big hugs,
      Trudy

      Reply
  2. Cheryl Alexander
    Cheryl Alexander says:

    Loved the high five and continue to enjoy the trip! I could just see you doing that. What a wonderful experience he will have, and you are there to share in the joyous photos when he returns.

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Lovely to get your note Cheryl. Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope all is going well with you. Warmly, Trudy

      Reply
  3. Carol+Ingells
    Carol+Ingells says:

    What a wise choice, Trudy, and how wonderful that Rowan has this great opportunity. Being an active grandparent is such a gift to you both.
    Tomorrow I will wake up to the first day of being 81 and we’ll use all the “good stuff” and be grateful.
    Love to you, Carol

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Hi Carol: Thanks for leaving your lovely note. I hope you had a great birthday and enjoyed all your finery. We are lucky to keep having birthdays. Keep on “singing.” We need your voice. Warmly, Trudy

      Reply
  4. Jean
    Jean says:

    So happy for Rowan,you will miss your mornings but I am sure you have already filled this gap with fun things to do.I am remembering my own children’s school trips and enjoying such happy memories.take care of you dear Trudy

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Hi Jean: For some reason, it just came to mind to check my comments. I was sure I had replied to them and sadly discovered I had not. So, I am doing it now. I truly appreciate the notes that you and others send. Thank you so very much. Warmly, trudy

      Reply
  5. Sabine Kaspari
    Sabine Kaspari says:

    Thank you so much, Trudy, for this reminder:-) An example of my side: It took my husband and me quite a long time to finally agree, that we would rent our tiny wooden house with its breathtaking fiew to tourists. We built it as our “retirement house” and will move in, when it is the time. Until then, we really did not want to have anybody in there.
    But now, as we made this decission, we are having guests over guests and all are so happy being there. Only today, a young couple moved in for a week and they are so happy in it, which makes us VERY happy:-)
    Love
    Sabine

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Hi Sabine: I love your example. I am happy for your guests who get to come to such a beautiful area. Also, I knew for certain someone would suggest a ship in harbour isn’t always safe. It made me smile, because it is also true. Thank you. Warm wishes across the sea. Trudy

      Reply
  6. Janet Vickers
    Janet Vickers says:

    The daily news on the radio is bleak. Today was a clip from Afghanistan and I wonder how does it make men happy to know they have more power than a woman? Such a conversation would not be allowed there. And to read about your grandson and your camera feels really good.

    Reply
    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Hi Janet. Thank you for letting me know that I can brighten up your day from time to time. It means alot. Warmly, Trudy

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Want to join the discussion?
Feel free to contribute!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *