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A “reverse bucket list” starts with the gratitude we find in examining our previous accomplishments and fulfilling experiences we’ve had.

I have a great trust in life against all odds, even though I see that life isn't always fair

"...We all have a torch – we just don’t remember to turn it on!" Comment from a lovely reader.

Thirty seconds of awe changed my day.

Getting bad news about our health can be devastating. especially when all we hear is “inconclusive – let’s just wait and see.”

Here I am in beautiful Alberta having completed, as of tonight, a public talk, a weekend retreat for Wellspring members, and an afternoon program. I started in Calgary last week and today wended my way north, driving three hours to Edmonton. Mind you, I wasn't driving, rather I was driven by my dear friend and colleague Nancy. The truth is, I have been supported every step of the way by loving colleagues and friends, even before I stepped off the plane. It is hard to explain the profound impact of seeing beloved Wellspring members, once again, in person. And new

I will fly to Calgary early in the morning for two special reasons.

Much of our worry is fueled by our desire to control the uncontrollable future. We want certainty and guarantees. And sadly these are not available to us.

I find it remarkable that we have a national holiday to celebrate what we are thankful for.

A cosmic joke. The advantage of living long enough is learning that life is full of the unexpected.

Self-compassion is simply showing some kindness to yourself.

It is breathtaking when you stop for a moment and realize how we all got here. (short post)

The desire for life is strong in most of us and I desire as many seasons of living fully as possible. 

How much time, energy and stress do we lose and exert by looking for things?"

"Think about making art like any healthy habit, such as eating well or exercising." Professor Christianne Strang of Euroscience at the University of Alabama at Birmingham

I think we need little stories, now and then, that offer moments of reassurance, meaning and significance.

I am having fun as I scribble away here in New Brunswick on the last week of my family holiday.

I have been without internet the past two days but I have a brief window this morning to say hello. To take advantage of this situation I am reposting the second blog post I wrote back in 2018. I continue to be on holidays in the Maritimes until the 13th but next week I will be able to scribble away as usual. Until then I hope this note finds you immersed in summer and loved ones and various adventures. I also know some of you, like me, will have received sad news about the death of a friend or other

Although with Ikigai and Illness, we situate it in the present and determine what we can do now, we are not independent of our past and future. And that can be a good thing.

We have a birthday tradition on the west coast -we get up early enough to enjoy the pre-dawn light and watch the sunrise.

"Bittersweetness is not, as we tend to think, just a momentary feeling or event. It's also a quiet force, a way of being," Susan Cain

"Collective effervescence is the feeling of energy and harmony when people are engaged in a shared purpose."

How many more summers do we have? Let's relish this summer in the best way we can.

I could spend the rest of my days just writing thank-you notes to all the wonderful humans that have crossed my path.

Well, here in Japan, we have a concept called yutori.” And it is spaciousness. It’s a kind of living with spaciousness. Interview with poet Naomi Shihab Nye

Look for the beauty in nature and be oh so generous in sharing it.

The original meaning of dropping or leaving your baggage had to do with travel. Later on, it became a psychological tool of leaving behind what no longer serves you well.

Please celebrate your own markers. It is essential to acknowledge significant moments. 

Wikipedia describes a weed as "a plant that is considered undesirable in a particular place." Ralph Waldo Emerson described a weed...(you will have to read to find out. haha

We all need connection, beauty, joy, laughter, and a few good words. Letter writing can be a transformative option.

And the bottom line is we can and do co-exist with uncertainty. And it doesn't have to ruin our lives, even though we don't like it or want it. 

"Courage is what love looks like when tested by the simple everyday necessities of being alive." David Whyte

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. You need one because you are human." Jane Howard, Families.

What do I want to do, in order to be a "great" grandmother? In a way, it's a non-material legacy question, for us all.

...what if joy is not only entangled with pain, or suffering, or sorrow but is also what emerges from how we care for each other through these things?" Ross Gay

Three steps forward, and two steps back but even if I get impatient I don't get discouraged.

No blocking is a principle in Improv that helps move the action along and makes the players look good.

To move along in a stream, as water does.

Illness can provide a wake-up call. We can use illness as an opportunity to get down to business with living.

Living Wabi Sabi by Taro Gold,  claimed that if you ask people on the street in Tokyo to describe wabi-sabi. "they will likely give you a polite shrug and explain that Wabi Sabi is simply unexplainable."

"‘Be especially skeptical of what you’re sure is true. These are the beliefs that often get us in the most trouble.”

I understand that some of you won't open this post because you are tired of the Hallmark Holidays. I get it! However, I'm not one of those people. I love celebrating. It is part of my Ikigai.

Our relationships are the most important thing.

A daily practice, costing nothing, which cultivates awareness and reminds us to take time to see the beauty in our own backyards.

To age exuberantly, you must actively recognize your “internalized ageism” and fight against it,

There is every reason to change our minds with additional information.

All of us have an uncertain future, even those with perfect health. And yet...

A favourite poem and a few musings to begin the year.

Coming to grips with ultimate reality - we can't do it all.

Two poems for this time.

I think it is great to keep doing what works. But when it no longer works, do something different or add something new.

It is a challenge to accept the truth of what no longer is possible and yet embrace all that still can be.

Every day that we wake up we have an opportunity to do at least one lovely thing for ourselves and for another.

When we can start letting go of our own self-imposed constraints and open up to the wonder that is this moment we can still do something for others and for ourselves. We are free.

Many children... delight in the small and inconspicuous. Rachel Carson

Possible side effects include moments of spontaneous gratitude, pure joy, a desire to live fully while we can, and an urge to give back.

"Be patient with the fact that you’re human and that you make these mistakes. That’s more important than getting it right.” Pema Chodron

It's worth a try to create the conditions for rest and restoration so we are able to faithfully take care of ourselves and our obligations.

Let's splurge with our words while people we admire are still alive.

At one time or another, everyone loses something. What a surprise to be found.

The subtleties of our lives are no small thing. I was not grateful for my cancer diagnosis but I was deeply grateful, since I had it, to be diagnosed early. Both are true.

The ones with the magic touch are treasures.

I'm not a big fan of International Days, only because there are so many of them. So I pick and choose,

The things that count in our lives are most often things that can't be counted.

I know it is hard to imagine that we will run out of moons. But like it or not we are mortal.

The answer to this question can change as we live longer and our circumstances change. It is a question to be asked several times throughout our lives.

"Ibasho is more than a place. - a situation where you feel safe, at peace, secure, accepted and where you belong. A sense of well-being." Nick Kemp from his new book Ikigia-Kan

"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in." Rachel Carson

"As human beings we share a tendency to scramble for certainty whenever we realize that everything around us is in flux." Pema Chodron

The summer we... and if we aren't too concerned about picking and choosing then each summer day is the best one yet.

As long as we have life, we have the opportunity to mend our fences and express our love and appreciation.

Have you ever compared yourself to the fantasy of what you imagined your life would be like by age X?

"Come, My Friends, Let's Sing and Dance All Night Long" Ryokan

No matter what else is going on, whether I am tired, feeling flat, grumpy, or anxious when I see the incredible beauty and carefreeness of simple wildflowers my heart bursts.

My regular readers know that I would never say this. I don't really like that slippery word, cure. However...

"Taking in the good, whenever and wherever we find it, gives us new eyes for seeing and living." - Author: Krista Tippett. The On Being Project

Being a friend to yourself is good self-care. It costs no money and you don't have to get on a plane.

We don't need to know what to do or say or have a plan. Showing up is what matters.

When You Have Nothing Give it Away

One of the things I love about ikigai is its relationship to everyday life.

A note from Vancouver in the middle of a beautiful five day moodling holiday.

There's no way to be successful without massive amounts of adversity, criticisms, failures, and mistakes," claims Dr David Sinclair at Harvard University Medical School

Ajuinat is an old Inuktitut word It roughly translates to "when you are confronted with adversity, or things that are difficult, you keep going."

Living well with illness is not about consistently feeling great and simply overlooking the difficulties. It is about not falling in a hole and staying there and allowing our illness to define our life.

"It all feels too much said the fox...as long as you know it won't feel this way forever said the moon." Charlie Mackesy 

102 years ago today my Mother was born. I am celebrating her loving life and her natural wisdom here today.

If you have a new idea you want to express, just do it. What is holding you back?

I wonder what gave us moderns the idea that life should be free from pain and suffering. Our expectations that those "things" shouldn't happen create the piggyback suffering we so want to avoid. 

This is a natural time to start making plans, tentative perhaps, but there is joy in the possibilities.

Scattering a few seeds: poetry, video...

When the world is in chaos it is a good time to pay more attention to our surroundings and the small things in our daily life.

The paradox of not liking and feeling helpless with what is going on in the world, yet also loving the daily life we have been given

What if it all works out? Let's Imagine that for an hour or so.

"A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for."

"We treat our plans as though they are a lasso, thrown from the present around the future, in order to bring it under our command." Oliver Burkeman - Four Thousand Weeks

What took your breath away this week?

Sometimes in life we all need a lift. Returning to a place that feels like home, can work its magic.

It is however no laughing matter because it is true. It is life, and in a single moment, we go from this to that.

There is a long (but often neglected) western tradition of interest in salutogenesis, the origins of health, which is concerned with understanding the causes of health as opposed to pathogenesis, the origins of disease.

It's a quandary that at a time when we are predisposed to hibernate with a need to curl up in front of the fire there are many demands to exercise our will in all manner of goals and resolutions for the New Year. I will try my hand at something different this year.

It would be fun to experiment a little this New Year and see if we can each find a way- a small ritual perhaps to start or end our day that brings tenderness and kindness...

"The most important aspect of the practice of grateful living is trust in life." by Brother David Steindl Rast

Simple pleasures are different for all of us. I have had a few unexpected pleasures this week. Although the winter sun beaming through the windows is hard to beat. What are yours?

Affection broadens our minds: of all natural loves, it teaches us first to notice, then to endure, then to smile at, then to enjoy, and finally to appreciate, the people who 'happen to be there.' CS Lewis

December can be a beautiful last month of the year with light, love, music, good food, and wonderful people. Let's reduce the pressure and pick a few important things to focus our attention and effort on.

I know nothing about enlightenment and I do not pursue it.  I have, however,  read about it so I am aware that it seems to have  something to do with waking up.

"Our challenge is not to choose between the fragility and strength of life but to cultivate our wonder by holding both in our heart." Mark Nepo

This day prompts me to also take stock and remember my family and friends who have died not though war but through illness and old age. I have anchored this practice of remembering to the 11th of November.

"If you try to find time for your most valued activities by first dealing with all the other important demands on your time, in the hope that there’ll be some left over at the end, you’ll be disappointed." Oliver Burkeman

With only a change in perspective, the most ordinary things take on inexpressible beauty. Karen Maezen Miller

Sleep - Memory - On Becoming an Artist - these three recently caught my attention,

This past few weeks I am thinking about priorities and how everything can change in a flash

"I want to spend the rest of my life rejoicing in the beauty of this world and finding a million ways to say thank you.” - Anne Schrievogel

We already have plenty of evidence in our lives that we can handle things. We are here now.

A note about thank you

I was the recipient of the literal "shirt" two days ago on my Birthday.

"Let’s start by telling just one small thing that costs us nothing but our attention." From the poem, Introductions, by Susan Glassmeyer

"If we savor each step toward our destination as an experience never to be repeated, then we will have learned a way of walking in which any stopping place is good." Shundo Aoyama

Why does it require a power outage for me to enjoy this gift? Must every hour be filled with what needs doing?

As I live longer I am convinced that the beauty of the natural world is our treasure trove for what ails us.

We can't change the past. Yet, we can change the future by what we do today.

The harbinger of joy is to focus on noticing, appreciating, sharing more of what is already given and present. Kristi Nelson

If I were a poet I would compose an ode to the road but since I'm not I will make a list instead.

"We are born and we die and in between we have the chance to keep each other company and that's the thing that counts the most." John Tarrant

“I don't want you to hear my story and say, "My own suffering is less significant." I want you to hear my story and say, "If she can do it, then so can I!” ― Edith Eger

I love the word kokoro - "heart and spirit and soul and mind all together."

I want to say that it is actually scary to write a book, even a small one, and put it out there... But time is short and everyone reading this has their own gifts to share with the world.

The summer season is short. I find it beautiful with a certain carefreeness that I don't experience at any other time. Let's not miss it and only notice summer after it is gone. I invite you to notice something beautiful each day of this summer season. You might jot it down. Your summer treasures of 2021.

This is one of the things I appreciate about living for 75 years. There is so much that I can overlook now. So much I don’t need to prove. Many new things to learn.  And where I can relax and enjoy the ordinary every day ups and downs of life.

May you spend some of your moments basking in the serenity of a special, although ordinary event. Taking the time to take it in, and even wondering what your life might be like without it.

Those who dwell, as scientists or laymen, among the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life.  - Rachel Carson

The secret to a happy and vibrant old age?  Strive to do what you love for as long as you can do it." Jane Brody

Nature is a good teacher and a good healer. It is possible to stop and  to look! to listen! to smell! to touch!

As for me, I continue to want more of these living, breathing days.

This is not the stiff upper lip behavior of the denier; this is grief and tears and agony, but it’s real. We show up for each other, wholeheartedly, and we learn on the job by paying attention, as we live our lives.

"Our challenge is not to choose between the fragility and strength of life but to cultivate our wonder by holding both in our heart." by Mark Nepo

I think this old-fashioned word, languish, is entirely appropriate to describe these times.

I miss her and I see her everywhere. "...from this window, like the moon, I keep sending news secretly." Rumi

"Yutori is a kind of living with spaciousness. For example, it’s leaving early enough to get somewhere so that you know you’re going to arrive early, so when you get there, you have time to look around."Naomi Shihab Nye

...disenfranchised grief is made up of the disappointments and losses that are hard to acknowledge, when worse things are happening to others.

There is no end to Celebrating Life and Spring - To pay attention to the awe of the ordinary gives us a chance each day to experience joy, beauty, meaning and relief, which are welcome in all kinds of times.

Throughout my lifetime spring has always represented beauty and hope.

As I rested on the gurney this afternoon, waiting my turn, I thought a lot about how truly grateful I was to get this procedure.

This maxim  is embedded in my operating system. And it reminds me of what is important,even when the world is turned upside down.

I am holding in my heart those who mourn, especially the “nearest afflicted.” We can all remember to tread gently with our dear ones and ourselves.

The best way to begin is the same as the best way to swim in the sea. No tiptoes. No wading. Go under.

We will never arrive someplace where we can rest undisturbed for the rest of our days.

Looking at the challenges and catastrophes that come our way we can view arugamama as a readiness to say, “what now?” With things as they are, what can I actually do right now?

Learn something new. You may try something new and fail. Guess what?  Failure is always part of the package when we try new things and being willing to risk failure is a passport to living fully.

Today is historic. A new chapter. A fresh slate. You don't need me to reiterate all the firsts. I simply want to honour and dedicate this day  to our American friends, relatives, and neighbours, and join them in celebrating their new President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris.

Sometimes we need sunflowers in the middle of winter as a reminder of things to come when the wind blows cold.

2021 awaits us with 359 new pages for our book of life. Let's all live them fully, in the best way we know how. "Zigzagging (along) you there, me here...as the snail does."

I don't have a crystal ball. However, I think it is safe to say that by this time next year things will be different. Since change is the only constant I can't be wrong. So, I enter 2021 filled with realistic hope and will cross each bridge as it comes.

I leave you with my wishes that life will give you strength and courage to work with all the trials facing you, and that you are living with, right now. Also, "may your life be crowded with unexpected joys." H Jackson Brown

You gave me What you did not have, and I gave you What I had to give—together, we made Something greater from the difference. Mark Nepo

Affection broadens our minds: of all natural loves, it teaches us first to notice, then to endure, then to smile at, then to enjoy, and finally to appreciate, the people who 'happen to be there.' CS Lewis

Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing. And gave it up. Mary Oliver

Go ahead and be the best imperfect person you can be and get started on those things you want to accomplish before you die.

Playfulness is a key to all serious skill development. Take a day or a half a day to have fun with an interest that captivates you.

This day prompts me to also take stock and remember my family and friends who have died not though war but through illness and old age. I have anchored this practice of remembering to the 11th of November.

As easy as it is to speculate on what might happen in our lives, when we are devastated by illness, financial ruin, divorce, politics, and so on, it seems best to stick with the facts. 

If you don’t like something about your current life, do something different.

"Creativity is great medicine for all, both the creator and the one who experiences it. It is not an indulgence; it is fundamental to medical practice.” Patch Adams

I really am suggesting that we take back the sabbath – having one day a week to rest, play, have fun, bike, walk, reflect, turn off our devices and breathe.

Let's do it: something, anything, that deserves praise that is often overlooked. It is a great attention exercise.

At the end of life, when people look back to see what mattered for them and brought meaning, it's not about what they bought and what they owned. It's about what they did to help other people to live and how they related to other people and grew in wisdom.

With some exceptions,  I believe that people  are doing the best they can, with what they know, in the circumstances in which they find themselves.

So I am on my own mission to resurrect my  moodling time. For years I chose Sunday – the entire day- for the sole purpose of unstructured time. I got to read, bike, photograph, take long walks, write, visit with a friend, read poetry, and play the piano, daydream, and so on. Even though I am no longer the example,  I have the longing and motivation to keep trying.

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)i am never without it (anywhere i go) E. E. Cummings

When we face the unexpected and the difficult, we all have resources to "bear it"...as tough as it can be, you can do it. We all can.

Possible side effects include moments of spontaneous gratitude, pure joy, a desire to live fully while we can, and an urge to give back.

It’s about accepting responsibility that you’re important to people. Lyndsay Green

...Every year, everything I have ever learned in my lifetime, leads back to this...Mary Oliver

My sweetest of all possible Mother's, departed this earth on Sunday afternoon, July 26th, on beautiful Gabriola Island. She will be missed and never forgotten.

My sweetest of all possible Mother's, departed this earth on Sunday afternoon, July 26th, on beautiful Gabriola Island. She will be missed and never forgotten.

Lead your ordinary everyday lives extraordinarily well in all the ways that count. Do what needs doing and always be kind.

"A big part of what you must learn if you’re to be less worried about controlling everything is how to let go of your compulsive need to feel in control." Darlene Cohen 

Rather than waiting for something better to come along, take the initiative and find a way to make something better actually happen. Rabbi Schachter

"...poetry as water: essential, calm, churning, a vortex of light and shadow, refreshingly cool, pleasingly warm, and sometimes just hot enough or cold enough to jolt, charge, render slightly uncomfortable, and bring one fully, deeply to life once again." Claudia Zoe Bedrick

"Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.”- Mary Anne Radmacher

I am not suggesting that we break our mirrors, but I too learned that I am not just what I see reflected back at me.

"An optimist isn't necessarily a blithe, slightly sappy whistler in the dark of our time.

The concept of Ubunto, "to be human we need other humans." Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Mt Blanc Project: to demonstrate to themselves and others that you can live an active, purposeful and joyful life while ageing  and while experiencing serious illness.

So the question is, when is a weed not a weed?

I wish us all well as we venture forth with awareness, intelligence  and fortitude.

During that conversation I was asked for some examples of my Mother’s kindness. And without a second thought I told them this story.

Dr. Bonnie Henry, Chief Medical Officer for the province of British Columbia says everyday, "Be kind; be calm; be safe."

Make the best of where you are and with the way things are. Take the flashlight of your attention and go on a treasure hunt.

Option B was a roaring success; "it was worth living 100 years just to celebrate my birthday in such a unique way."Eileen Wilson

The gift of years. So here is the thing. I know that many people like to show the youthful photos of their Mother and I love that idea too but I really want to celebrate my Mother's successful ageing. She has lived 100 years and you can see her good spirit, love, and joie de vivre shining through.

It is only in the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is  invisible to the eye. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry from The Little Prince

I think it is a good time to be bold and try new things that we can do within the walls of our homes. Let's experiment.

Be the calm one on the boat

Spy hopping is a vertical half-rise out of the water performed by a whale to view the surroundings.I think this is going on all over the place right now.  A half-rise to take a peak, get the lay of the land to see what needs to be done. Improvising.

"We are quick to forget that just being alive is an extraordinary piece of good luck, a remote event, a chance occurence of monstrous proportions. Nicholas Nassim Taleb

"Whatever you call it, whoever, you are, you need one." Jane Howard

Today I have been thinking about the way quotations have influenced my life. In many ways they are just as important to me as poetry.

It isn't the mountains that wear you out but the grain of sand in your shoe.

Life is amazing - a short post today.

For now, allow yourself to love and be loved by those who are there.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”~ Lao Tzu

There was an understanding that things would change; feelings would fade; noone escapes sorrow and that somehow things would get better around the corner. Love and laughter helped.

For this week why not choose one thing you want to do where you have not been consistent. Make it reasonable. Make it tiny. The Kaizen approach really works.

There is no remedy for love but to love more. -Henry David Thoreau

2020 awaits us with 365 brand new pages for our book of life. Let's all live them fully, in the best way we know how. "Zigzagging (along) you there, me here...as the snail does."

May those of you who celebrate Hanukkah, or Christmas and/or Solstice create memorable and joyful moments with your loved ones.

As long as we have life, we have the opportunity to mend our fences and express our love and appreciation.

Here's the secret to taking a six hour mini holiday in the middle of the week. Do it for someone else. Someone you think the world of, who you believe could use a change of pace.

Don't wait for something 'special' to put in it. That way it will sit on a shelf forever.

A few good words

One day at a time is really the best way I have found to deal with the intractable difficulties of life. Dr. Itami's, Meaningful Life Therapy, which my work is based on is "present centered." What can I do today? Interesting video this week for you to watch from philosopher Alain de Botton at The School of Life in London.

Kintsugi dates back to the 15th century and  is a method of mending or patching broken ceramics that makes them even more beautiful and valuable than in their original state. I also like to think that it can be a metaphor for our own cracks.

We are busy people, and often worn out by illness and care giving. I will now make a wild proposition for us all, including me. For our good health we need to take ourselves outdoors for one hour every single day.  One hour out of 24.

Imagine a Poetry Pharmacy that dispenses first aid with poems, including support for good mental health. My kind of Drugstore.

When I was going through my cancer treatment, I kept a blog called Joyful Wrecks.  I decided on the name to illustrate my experience that although I would be looking for joyful moments, and working to create them, I recognized that there would also be moments when I felt shipwrecked.

I now do more unrealistic things than I used to. I have more hope that things will work out. I say yes whenever possible, including to myself. Realistically, if my life was audited by the world, from beginning to now I should have more worries, fears and insecurity.

I was struck by the advice one of the Morita Psychiatrists gave in his presentation. He suggested that we take a few minutes everyday to take stock of "what didn't happen."

The truth is, life gives us challenges on a regular basis. We use our wit, skill and all the help we can get to take action on the things we can do something about. But don't stop there. Use all those skills to find precious moments of surprise and delight waiting outside your door.

Toward the end of his life an interviewer asked, “Dr. Huxley, perhaps more than anyone else alive, you have studied the great spiritual and religious traditions of the world. What have you learned?” And Huxley answered, “I think we could just be a bit kinder.”

The relief, even with the bad news is this. "At least now I know what I'm up against."

September has Arrived Fall is in the air. You can smell it; see it; hear it and almost taste it. I can almost touch it. The quality of the air feels different. It is the most glorious season for me. My Grandaughter insists it is because I was born in September. There is truth to that as for me it represents fresh starts and new beginnings far beyond the calendar New Year. At this minute, the sun is streaming through the south facing windows at my daughter's home. The cat is curled up in a state of total relaxation. I

The truth is that there is nothing unusual about any of these things. Except to the person they are happening to.

The joy of living is knowing how precious and tenuous it really is to be part of the full human experience.

Staying curious and paying attention to the world around us.

Let's just say that language was not a barrier. The messages conveyed went way beyond ordinary language and opened my eyes to a communication without borders.

"It's a great day to be alive." Kevin Kaminski

Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. Pema Chodron

The purpose of these Japanese hikers is to demonstrate to themselves and others that you can live an active, purposeful and joyful life while ageing  and while experiencing serious illness.

Don’t make a rigid structure and then chastise ourselves when we don’t live up to it. Better to keep a limber mind and develop a tenderness toward existence.  —Natalie Goldberg, 

"Creative individuals don’t have to be dragged out of bed; they are eager to start the day. This is not because they are cheerful, enthusiastic types." Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

"We have two lives; the second begins, when you realize you only have one." Mario de Andrade

"You can't stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometime." Winnie-the-Pooh

Time slips through our fingers, and there is no sense regretting what we haven't done. Start where you are is always the best policy.

Staying in touch and reaching out to old friends and family members may seem like too much trouble. But it isn't trouble. It is more like self-care.

It's funny how things come together.

A story I remember with delight or how point of view changes things.

During this time of weaponized words in almost every sector,  let's join the resistance by offering words as gifts to those who cross our paths.

Wanderer, there is no path. We lay down a path in walking. Antonio Machado

It seems to me that whoever you are and wherever you are we all have nothing to lose by being anything other than our ordinary ourselves.

The effects of nature’s qualities on health are not only spiritual and emotional but physical and neurological. I have no doubt that they reflect deep changes in the brain’s physiology, and perhaps even its structure. Dr. Oliver Sacks

As I observe her many years of living fully I see that the attributes of ageing well, are similar to living well with illness.

How truly amazing that anything will survive because it is too cold or too hot, or there is too much or too little rain. And yet survive it does...

There are multi-coloured threads, all with a hint of gold weaving their way in and out of our circles of influence. The tapestry becomes rich, meaningful and beautiful.

"Go and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious mistakes, and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here." Neil Gaiman

We can become a "moment spotter," one who notices the opportunities to make a moment special, for someone else and consequently for ourselves.

Illness can provide a wake-up call. We can use illness as an opportunity to get down to business with living.

"Don't squander the 15 minutes," Dr. Heather Palmer declares; see all the things you can do. Time deceives us and we often think we need much bigger blocks of it to do anything.

We would be a sorry lot if we spent our days fretting about all the things that might and could go wrong. And we aren’t better off if we think only good things should happen to us.

Currently there is a fascinating 10 year study being carried out by the National Institute of Health on the power of music to heal.

As Randy Pausch adds "Never, ever underestimate the importance of having fun."

"All too often we cannot bring ourselves to say No when we want to and know we should." William Ury

If we don't pay attention or only notice all that is wrong, so much of our lives disappear into the background, unnoticed and unappreciated. When we pay attention to the support we receive our world expands and we have more fun.

I believe that this kind of caring is essential and particularly important for anyone with a chronic condition. If that is you and you don't have it, ask others for recommendations. Turn over every stone to find it. It can change everything.

Happiness that depends on what you acquire or become is only conditional happiness, not true happiness.

Humour, from my understanding and experience boosts our spirits, if not our immune system. Granted, there is so much we don’t know for sure, but we all seem to benefit when we can have a good laugh. Funnily enough, we don’t all laugh at the same things.

It is important to seek out what you need. Sometimes the locked door opens, even a crack, and allows some light to get in. Sometimes it doesn’t, and yet, our efforts and the efforts of others keep us from being alone.

Let’s end our year not just counting our blessings or emphasizing what we neglected, but noticing the things we actually got right. Let’s encourage each other along, including ourselves.

This season is not joyful for everyone. There are many where the lights and good cheer exacerbate their deeply personal sorrows. I am thinking of you, in particular, as I write this post.

Several years ago, a new friend was dismayed that I had a real tree in my home at Christmas. “It must be a very small one,” she commented. “No,” I said. “It is always very tall and beautiful.” There was silence.

Kintsugi repairs the brokenness and the ageing of the vessel in a way that makes the container even more beautiful and valuable than it was prior to being broken. Peter Mayer a folk musician from Minnesota wrote a beautiful song that refers to the beauty and metaphor of this art."

With Earth beset by conflict, climate change, pollution, and other ills, the best-selling author asks: What better time to be hopeful?

After many decades of living I now aim to reclaim the spirit of “no rushing.”

Ichigo Ichie - A once in a lifetime chance of you and I to be together, in this particular way. The implication is that every such occasion is a treasured moment, and treated as such. Nothing is taken for granted.

It doesn’t mean everyone is helpful. It means that when things go wrong, kind people always appear on the scene, wherever you are. Even in the middle of bustling and busy New York City. Even when we are by ourselves, we are not alone.

Truth is, life is short. What do you really have to lose by putting it out there - who you are and what you want to do. Failure is always part of the package when we try new things and being willing to risk failure is a passport to living fully.

“A trim tab is the tiny, trailing part of a ship's rudder. Slight pressure on the trim tab moves the rudder, which in turn directs the ship. We are all trim tabs, tiny pivots affecting the overall direction of humanity. As Fuller advised, it is time to take a long view. Zoom out, look at where we've been and where we might be going. See it? Now choose your path and act accordingly.” Rabbi Rami Shapiro speaking about Buckminister Fuller

“At one time or another, everyone loses something. We lose loved ones. We lose our health. We lose our glasses. We lose our memories. We lose our money. We lose our keys. We lose our socks. We lose life itself. We have to come to terms with this reality. Sooner or later, all is lost; we just don’t always know when it will happen." Lama Surya Das

With extreme exceptions, I believe that people are doing the best they can, with what they know, in the circumstances in which they find themselves.

The truth is, life gives us challenges on a regular basis. We use our wit, skill and all the help we can get to take action on the things we can do something about. But don't stop there. Use all those skills to find precious moments of surprise and delight waiting outside your door.

We are all well practiced in knowing what is wrong. Historically, being aware of the negative and all the possible things that could go wrong was part of our survival kit.

There is a tendency, as we live longer or have health challenges, to gravitate towards safety. Sadly, what is considered risk free continues to diminish as time goes on.

This advice from Psychiatrist, Dr. Shoma Morita, means that when you find yourself in difficult circumstances and there is the possibility of taking any action to relieve or influence those circumstances, then do so.

How many days have you lived Nana? How many hours? Yikes...something to think about.

Nine years ago, I was happily preparing for my last treatment at the Cancer Centre. “Finally, it will be over,” I said to myself. A celebration seemed in order and I was making plans. The week before this auspicious date, however, I was given pause for thought.

Barbara Kingsolver teaching herself joy, over and over again.

Wabi-Sabi – the beauty of imperfection, impermanence and incomplete.

When we face the unexpected and the difficult, we all have resources to "bear it." As tough as it can be, let's never forget this important truth.

Dr. Jinroh Itami, who developed Meaningful Life Therapy specifically for cancer patients, used travel as one of his non-medical tools. He famously took a group of Japanese cancer patients to climb Mt Blanc three decades ago, long before strenuous exercise was encouraged in cancer circles.

As I sit on a bluff above Georgia strait, with the city of Vancouver in the distance, I am thinking about the concept of blame. There are so many reasons to blame another. So many things to blame as to the cause of our illnesses, failures and disappointments. And yet…

Last week I accompanied a friend and my grandchildren to the Museum of Nature to view the special exhibit on the brain. Of all the marvels this wondrous organ provides, the surprising fact that has stuck with me is the effect of even mild dehydration on the brain.

We all, at our core, are bold and brave and have something original to contribute. why not do so while we have the chance.

We show up for each other, wholeheartedly, and we learn on the job by paying attention as we live our lives.

Yesterday, my friend Patricia, sent me a link to an article by the well-known writer’s writer, Natalie Goldberg. The article is called Old Age is not Guaranteed and is an excerpt from her new book called Let the Thundering World Come Home.

Set aside sometime everyday to spend with something that you love.

"Never resist a generous impulse." Words spoken by the Dalai Lama at a conference I attended in Vancouver 2004.

There isn't much to laugh at when it comes to cancer, heart disease, diabetes, and so many other painful, life threatening, and on-going difficult illnesses that life throws in our way. One of my teachers, Dr. Itami, uses laughter as part of his healing prescription for cancer patients.

Woody Allan, along with others, has been quoted as saying that 80% of success is just showing up. There is a kernel of truth there but I suggest that showing up wholeheartedly may be the defining factor.

I read a book, as a young 20 year old living in Montreal, called Sing While There is Voice Left. It was written by a theologian and I remember nothing specific about it, other than the title. The title, however, has stuck with me my entire life.

Dr. Itami's guidelines are available and helpful to anyone dealing with a difficult illness, including caregivers.