Grumpy Bird

I was talking about this book, Grumpy Bird,  today, and recalling how important it is in my life. Three years ago I wrote this post and decided to re-post it here today as  I gr umped about the weather. When is spring going to finally come and stay, I complained.

Children’s books are my treasures. I  love both the illustrations and the wisdom contained therein.

When I was going through my cancer treatment, I kept a blog called Joyful Wrecks.  I decided on the name to illustrate my experience that although I would be looking for joyful moments, and working to create them, I recognized that there would also be moments when I felt shipwrecked.

At that time my granddaughter, Sophie, was two years old, and she had a book that we both loved called Grumpy Bird. (by Jeremy Tankard) The book began like this:

 

 

When Bird woke up, he was grumpy
He was too grumpy to eat.
He was too grumpy to play.
In fact he was too grumpy to fly.
“Looks like I’m walking today,” said bird.

One morning when I was feeling down, I remembered the book and on a day when my spouse asked me how things were going. I answered,

Looks like I’m walking today,”I declared

What I loved about the metaphor, however, was that I could still walk (do something) just like Bird.

Part of being a joyful wreck was that there were, and still are, times when we all feel wrecked. I remember a time when my right arm was painful because of my “wrecked’ veins from multiple attempts to insert an IV. In fact, one of the chemo nurse’s looked at my veins and said, “I see we are doing what we do best around here, ruining veins.” And we both laughed.

It’s not always easy to co-exist with discomfort and still perceive that today is a precious gift, especially since we are conditioned to retreat from what we don’t like or fear. Yet it makes all the difference to the quality of our everyday life. Right now. In this minute.

There were times my arm hurt; I felt nauseated and I wished I felt differently. I wished I didn’t have cancer. Yet, I still woke up. How good was that! I got up on two wobbly legs. I sat down with my spouse and had a bowl of cereal with a sliced banana. The birch tree outside the dining room window was wearing a beautiful leafy green dress and the birds were singing. The air smelled sweet and had a quality of spring exuberance that was almost palpable. In that very moment life was perfect.

Dr. Morita told his patients, “When climbing a mountain you can give up a hundred times a day, but keep your feet pointed up hill.”

Living well with illness is not about consistently feeling great and simply overlooking the difficulties. It is about not falling in a hole and staying there and allowing our illness to define our life. It means not putting our lives on hold or wrapping ourselves in the cloak of the victim mentality. That mentality says: “life is hopeless and I can do nothing.”

Living well with illness is about taking action, small steps, even when not in the mood. We keep our feet moving and pointed uphill.

In the midst of our illness, we’re finding funny stories, learning, resting, moving, creating, helping, questioning, weeping, smiling, being angry, loving, caring, showing up, saying yes, saying no, getting another opinion, getting things done, enjoying, appreciating, taking a nap, and finding meaning and purpose while we can. Come to think of it, this sounds like what everyone is doing, including those who don’t have a serious illness.

Why not live with outstretched arms? What do we have to lose? We’re all terminal — we are all going to die one day.

Why not use these living breathing moments to say YES to life! Discover your talents and cultivate them; remember your dreams and act on them; use your gifts to cheer one another on. We never know our impact on the lives of others. We do know that when we live fully, we are more alive.

NOTES:

1:) Another reason I like this book is how bird’s friends came to support him. They were not tying to cheer him up or give advice. They just joined in and walked along side until he was ready to fly again. Of course I also think a walk is a great antidote for everything.

2:) Sometimes when I have a tough day, an unexpected element enters the picture.   A call comes, or maybe  an email or a word from a stranger or loved one that suddenly turns things around. I am so grateful for those moments and I hope that I can be that person for someone else. I think these elements are in all of  our days but we can easily  fail to notice.

3:) “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in. Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson  I appreciate this sound advice – “finish each day and be done with it.”

4:) The next time we meet it will be May. I am attempting to discover little known areas in my neighbourhood with their own beauty and charm. Finding new ways to stroll home. Thank you for coming by here. Please post in the comments or email some of your favourite children’s books and I will post them with delight. Each day is a new page in our book of life. May you enjoy it. Warmly, Trudy

18 replies
  1. Pat Scanlan
    Pat Scanlan says:

    Thank you Trudy. I sometimes wonder how you enter my brain, scoop out my thoughts and respond with your blog. Truly a gift. Sending you a hug and a thank you.

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      How lovely to hear from you Pat. Lucky me that a few written words turn out to be encouraging for you. Thank you for your note and “keep walking.” Warmly, Trudy

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  2. Connie Youmans
    Connie Youmans says:

    Trudy,

    Thank you for these words today. They are very helpful to me at this time. I will be reading this blog post again to help me in shifting my perspective.
    Connie Youmans

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Hi Connie. I’m glad you like Grumpy Bird too. He is a lovely companion in my life. Take care. All the best, trudy

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      What beautiful words dear Janice. Ilove…”please hold out your hands.” It reminds us of our own role in what we pay attention to. With appreciation and gratitude. Big hugs, Trudy

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  3. Diane
    Diane says:

    Thank you Trudy. I really needed to hear this today. It’s so easy to feel demoralized when facing yet another relapse and my world seems to shrink even more. I may never be able to fly again, but I certainly still can walk and I’m grateful for that… and for the sights I see along the way, and for those who walk with me as you often do (while invariably cheering me up and sharing good advice!). Thank you dear friend!

    I love the Emerson quote, especially “finish each day and be done with it”!

    One of my favourite children’s books is Le petit prince. Here are some translated quotes I love:

    “What matters most are the simple pleasures so abundant that we can all enjoy them…Happiness doesn’t lie in the objects we gather around us. To find it, all we need to do is open our eyes.”

    “‘What makes the desert beautiful,’ said the little prince, ‘is that somewhere it hides a well…’”

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Thank you dear Diane for this heartfelt comment. I appreciate the quotes you gave us too. You have my admiration for continuing to put one foot in front of the other and doing what you can do. And continually searching out the small things that lift your spirits.

      Take heart/courage. All my best wishes, Trudy

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Thank you Flora. You are surely one of those lovely humans who go around scattering seeds that make the world a better place. Warmest wishes, trudy

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Good grief. My instinct is to tell you all the reasons not to adore me but I am trying to practice what I preach and will simply say thank you. You are most kind dear Nancy. Big hugs, Trudy

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  4. Jiun
    Jiun says:

    Thank you dear Trudy, I love grumpy bird and love walking today…
    One of my favorite children books is about small bull Fernando, who wasn’t fighting as other bulls do, but he loves to lie down in the meadow and smells the flowers:-)
    with love and many colourful Spring flowers, Jiun

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    • T Boyle
      T Boyle says:

      Thank you for your kind comment Jiun. I can not imagine how much you have on your mind these days. I appreciate you taking time to leave a note and sending us all a recommendation. I look forward to reading about Fernando. He sounds pretty special. Sending love your way, Trudy

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  5. Kathryn
    Kathryn says:

    Oh my goodness Trudy, look at all these wonderful comments! You are loved.

    I too needed to hear this post thank you so much Trudy.
    Grateful for you and your musings.
    With metta
    Kathryn

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